Saturday 31 May 2014

A short update...

It is currently exam season and I am finding it hard to write on here about as many things as I would like to. I have made sure I have still contributed two articles to MyStudentStyle, and also offered to review two items which are currently in their way in the mail to me!

I just thought I'd share my mid-revision cheer-up purchases with you!
I am a huge fan of Ciate London's nail collection and was made aware, as a subscriber to their online newsletter, there was a flash sale today! Who am I to say no?!
Something good my way comes...


I have chosen a nail tonic because I've noticed my nails recently have become more brittle and prone to breaking. The 3am Girl is supposed to make short nails look dainty and feminine; which would be perfect for my hand type. Pool Party and Mango Martini are colours right on trend this season - bold shades to be seen in by the burning beach this summer. The Afterglow is a naughty treat; I have had my eye on it for a while and will make any sumptuous shade suitable for a rave.

I will be sure to review them when they arrive!

Tuesday 27 May 2014

Elliot Rodger's 'Retribution': An Internalised Misogynistic Perception of Entitlement to Women's Bodies.

Elliot Rodger has shot to fame after posting his story, 'My Twisted World' and various videos on YouTube about his 'retribution' of all the girls, by whom he felt his sexual advances were wrongfully rejected, so much so that it was 'criminal' and an 'injustice', and all the boys whose sexual prowess made Rodger desire a life in which he was similar.

Photo credit: www.usatoday.com
Despite his parents' concern over his deteriorating behaviour and visits by the police, who found him to be a shy and well-mannered boy, the long-term Asperger's sufferer was deemed to be a non-threat. This non-threat then successfully shot and killed 6 people in a student-based California town; his main aim a Sorority house filled with 'spoilt, blonde sluts', before ending his own life.

This triggered a worldwide response to Rodger's inherent hatred of women, and the tag #YesAllWomen began trending on social media platform Twitter, where women by their hundreds and thousands tweeted of their own experiences with misogyny and how it left them feeling. 

Whilst focus has been placed on the NRA, US politics concerning gun control and better support systems for those with mental illnesses, as well it should, I think the emphasis due on worldwide misogyny has been misplaced. Whilst a sufferer of Asperger's Syndrome; not all people with the same disease commit such felonies. Similarly, not all people who have the same innate hatred of women are sufferers of Asperger's, or in fact any mental, disease.

The self-confessed root of Rodger's anger against women (and sexually successful men) stems from the belief that he is entitled to the enjoyment of women's bodies for sexual performance. Although he briefly mentions his want for love from women and companionship from his fellow students, particularly, he highlights, during his college years, the manner in which he speaks in a YouTube video filmed in a Cali car park dictates a sense of authority and ownership over women. When Rodger is denied such ownership, when his sexual advances are rejected, he views this failure as a denial of his rights and so views it as 'criminal'. The way in which Rodger describes his fellow students' success with women is that the women are, as is their duty, giving their bodies for his classmates to enjoy; rather than any sense of autonomy or agency on the part of the female.

This is a symptom of a worldwide internalised misogyny, where in the modern day patriarchal society, the sense of superiority over women and sense of dominance over the 'lesser' gender has become the norm. 
Gender is a concept primarily constructed by culture and history. It is a qualitative construct of socio-legal meanings we attach to certain attributes and characteristics of bodies. This process of attaching meaning to bodies is the acceptance of gender-specific norms and behaviours; subscription to which indicates conformity with the hegemonizing form of social control that gender offers. Feminist theorist Butler asserts that biological essentialism can be disputed because although sex is determined by biology, gender is culturally-constructed. The very definition of woman as 'woman' is, as Moi posits, defined by men who, in turn, view the world through a patriarchal perspective. Women are paternalistically assigned their place in society by men (de Beauviour).

When Rodger's attempts of sexual encounters with women (where, as a cisgender heterosexual body, his intercourse would include the submission of the female) are rejected and he fails to achieve the heightened sense of dominance, he is left feeling lonely and confused. This sense of isolation, coupled with a misguided perception of entitlement to the women's body, and any sexual services they may provide him, resulted in such a strong misogynistic anger that he committed the acts he did.

Rodger displays a belief system based on contradicting ideologies which is typical of the misogynist. Women, both as a gendered body and to perform their gender, require possession of conflicting attributes to be accepted by society. Relevant examples of these include chastity, loyalty, innocence and obedience, alongside provocativeness and the ability to sexually please (a male). These realistically cannot all sit complementary within one gendered body, yet misogynistic spheres of society still hold high this expectation. Rodger condemns the girls as 'sluts', thereby having lost their desired sense of innocence. However, he repeatedly admits displeasure over their ability to please other men sexually, acts which he covets for himself, and through no sense of innocence can girls learn how to do this.

Rodger regards the women as 'spoilt'. To be spoilt, women would have to be under a sense of ownership; presumably here he is referring to money and gifts received from parents. However, isn't owning women and having them obey to his sexual fantasies precisely what Rodger desires? Isn't the denial of such a desire the premier reason his anger grew?

This distorted sense of womanhood, and what womanhood should mean for men, is symptomatic of a modern patriarchal society where the internalised misogynistic perspective of what it means to be feminine is possessed by almost all men and, unfortunately, some women. This upsetting fact means that the dislike of, and sense of superiority over, womankind has become so normalised over time that women view themselves as a sub-species without even realising they are doing it.

Nev Schulman, hit MTV show Catfish host, made a post on Facebook regarding the shootings and, although briefly mentioning hatred for women as a growing social issue, focused his (long) statement on how we could better progress as a society by inclusion and preventing the sense of isolation Rodger felt. Excuse me? Although I agree fundamentally that those suffering from mental distress should have better communication channels to facilitate their rehabilitation, it must be acknowledged that the ONLY cause of this tragedy is Rodger's anger towards women. Instead of feeling pity for the lonely underdog, we should feel a sense of anger that men of today feel so entitled to women's bodies that when they are denied it, they feel it only right that they can take life, to force compliance out of women. What about the families who have just lost their daughters? Women who, Rodger admits, have done nothing personally to him - they were just innocent bystanders; a front for all womankind, against whom Rodger directed his anger. 
Rodger's victims.
Photo credit: www.independent.co.uk
Yes, Nev, "[w]e ALL want to be accepted and feel desired". However, you do not possess the right to be desired. You are not entitled to women's love, body or sex. Nev's statement, although of some merit, has little credibility because it is written from a male-privileged perspective; which is precisely the problem I have been trying to illustrate throughout this article.

Instead of encouraging people, namely women, to reach out and make the stereotypical loner feel wanted and sexually-desired, how about encouraging men to respect women and their autonomy? How about educating men that women are not objects to be dominated or owned, but that they are animals of free-will and if they do not find you sexually or romantically attractive, then tough. Get over it. Dealing with rejection and loneliness is an aspect of every single person's life; women or men. No one has the right to own another person or to restrict their autonomy. The longer we view sexual engagements as ownership over women's bodies; the longer this problem will continue. 

Saturday 24 May 2014

Spring cleaning of my bookshelf!

There is nothing more calming to me than sitting by my bookshelf, surrounded by all my books. I love the feel of them, their smell, the sound the pages make as I squeeze them together... It is my eternal offering of solace. 
It is so beautiful to me. Although it may appear messy to the stranger - for me, all of my favourite worlds are contained within it. There is no logical order, no alphabetization of author's surname or discernible genre categorization but I know where everything is. I know where a singular book is because I put it there - because it was its place and there was literally nowhere else I could put it where it would more so belong.
Because of its ceaseless beauty to me, I thought I'd share it with you.

My own personal nirvana.
I'm a huge fan of Daphne DuMaurier. I am endlessly inspired by her dreamy prose, and feel a soulful connection with her as we both shared a childhood in the sandy realms of Cornwall.

I collect books with pretty covers.


Alice in Wonderland to me is one such book.


Could the pages possibly be any more enchanting?
My favourite author of all time, Mr. F. Scott Fitzgerald.
"And so we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past."
What's on Jenny's bookstand this week:
'Frenchman's Creek' by Daphne DuMaurier
(for the eighth time...)
A cheeky picture of me before the pub last night.
#butfirstletmetakeaselfie

Thursday 22 May 2014

Cinderella

Cinderella’s lungs

Weren’t strong enough for two

Arsenic made them wither

Charming believed they grew

Cinderella’s pills

Rolled downhill two by two

Prozac made her rosy pink

How Charming craved her blue

Cinderella’s mirror

Covered up by a sheet

Charming’s fit her the slipper

Glass chains adorned her feet

Cinderella’s body

When they dragged out the lake

Was found all bruised and broken

Charming stayed wide awake

Cinderella’s face

Offends the morning light

A knife under the blanket

Slept sound with him that night

A little introduction to the world of Jen...

Hi, this is me...
I have a bit of a princess-complex
I'm Jenny and this is where all of my innermost thoughts are going to come bursting out. But first, a little introduction. Well, I'm in my roaring twenties, about to turn 21, which is more than a little terrifying. Since I was a little child I have been enchanted by reading, my dad really encouraged me, and when I got a little bit older all I wanted to do was write. My dream is to have a novel published by me, sitting on my bookshelf.

I have four life goals:
  • Become an author. have a book (fiction) published that’s all mine.
  • See the world. Australia, America (NY) and Italy, please.
  • Get married and surround myself with kittens, puppies, bunnies and hamsters in a house full of love.
  • Practice being happy and zen. it’s not a goal; it’s a way of life. i need to remember this and master it.
I like watching lots of Disney films, and I pretty much believe I am a princess. (If you don't agree, well then that's just embarrassing for you). I love animals, especially cats. I like pastel colours, rainy days and baking cakes.
I made friends with this little guy on a sunny walk with my brother.

I'm a fixer, a perfectionist and good at setting myself up for falls.  

I am just about to graduate from University where I am just shy of completing my LLB Law degree. 

I am inspired by feminism whilst simultaneously retain a femme, cutesy gender identity. I would characterize myself as bisexual, and I am currently in a 6 month relationship with the boy of my dreams. 

This is what I've got up to this week... 
I ate cookies and ice cream for breakfast because I'm an adult who can make those decisions

I went shopping in Birmingham.
Playsuit, top and lingerie: Forever 21
Bambi and The Lady and The Tramp DVDS: CEX
Nail varnishes: Barry M

Revision blues meant I got a manicure!

Adjusting to the gypsy lifestyle. I spend a lot of my time on these trains, and missing my better half.

I have also been writing articles for My Student Style. You can view them here.


That's about it for now. Mahalo. X